Usually we discuss things when something relevant comes up. Like if we're at a restaurant and we see a couple with kids, one of us might say something like, "Aw, those kids are cute, but I'm so not ready for kids right now..." and then it might segue into a discussion of how we feel in general about having kids.
Similarly, when we both had to start paying for large items together like furniture and stuff, we started talking about who would be paying and how finances between us would work. (Separate accounts? Joint account? Split everything down the middle? Each person pays for what they consume and only split the things we share?) Something that makes this a bit easier for us is that we're both employed right now, so we're both able to pitch into things pretty equally, but I currently pay propotionally less on rent because I make less income than he does. Things like that.
I guess this is why I'm really glad we've been living together for a while. We've already had to discuss these issues and get a sense for how we stand on things, and now (hopefully) there will be no big surprises when we get married. *crosses fingers*
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Date: 2004-01-07 11:23 am (UTC)Similarly, when we both had to start paying for large items together like furniture and stuff, we started talking about who would be paying and how finances between us would work. (Separate accounts? Joint account? Split everything down the middle? Each person pays for what they consume and only split the things we share?) Something that makes this a bit easier for us is that we're both employed right now, so we're both able to pitch into things pretty equally, but I currently pay propotionally less on rent because I make less income than he does. Things like that.
I guess this is why I'm really glad we've been living together for a while. We've already had to discuss these issues and get a sense for how we stand on things, and now (hopefully) there will be no big surprises when we get married. *crosses fingers*