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Man, did I fuck up this year.
I suck at buying gifts for people. Personally, I don't consider receiving gifts very important. I have pretty much all the stuff I need (& then some), so I don't expect people to expend a ton of time/energy thinking up stuff that I haven't considered & then buying it & giving it to me in a pretty wrapped package. Also, our house is pretty small (1,034 sf) with limited storage, & most days I feel like the last thing I need is more stuff to try to wedge into Breezehome. I discount the importance of giving gifts because I don't consider them important. I also procrastinate on shopping for gifts, because I hate shopping so much.
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Shay considers getting gifts very important. I know this, but I still forget it. This year, I really fell down. There were a lot of reasons: the two listed above, & a few that were specific to this year. Between Thanksgiving & Christmas, I didn't have a lot of free time due to 1) norovirus; 2) a week's work in Leadville; & 3) two weeks of visitors. Also, I have been living in a state of Limbo where I wasn't sure if Shay wanted gifts from me? Was she buying me anything? Were we even going to be together at Christmas? Asking about any of these topics seemed like a sure-fire way to start a fight, so I just.... didn't.
Finally, I did buy her a gift - something she asked for, something non-material, & something fairly expensive. I got her 20 classes at Denver Paw School for Hobbes to take agility classes. She asked for this, specifically. It was somewhat expensive (actually, by my standards it was very expensive, over $400). I did the legwork to get Hobbes evaluated & approved for the class - set an appointment, took him in, did all the vaccination paperwork, etc. And I'm happy to take him to classes when it doesn't work with Shay's schedule.
But this gift doesn't fulfill her idea of a gift. And so, I should've gotten her something else - something tangible, like clothing or a video game or jewelry. Bobo Bro got her an oil infuser (for making infused oils - yeah, she will use it for weed) & she LOVED it. I should've tried harder to come up with something. When I told her on Christmas Eve I didn't have any gifts for her to unwrap, she wept. I felt like shit.
Her birthday is on Friday. My gift for that is I'm getting her laptop repaired - it's been inoperable for months & I finally just grabbed it & took it to a repair shop. But I doubt this will be an acceptable gift either (even though for me this would be an amazing gift).
So what do I do? I don't know what she might want. If I ask her, I'm going to look like a last-minute schmuck (which I am) AND risk another fight. I don't know what to do.
I suck at buying gifts for people. Personally, I don't consider receiving gifts very important. I have pretty much all the stuff I need (& then some), so I don't expect people to expend a ton of time/energy thinking up stuff that I haven't considered & then buying it & giving it to me in a pretty wrapped package. Also, our house is pretty small (1,034 sf) with limited storage, & most days I feel like the last thing I need is more stuff to try to wedge into Breezehome. I discount the importance of giving gifts because I don't consider them important. I also procrastinate on shopping for gifts, because I hate shopping so much.
ERROR ERROR ERROR
Shay considers getting gifts very important. I know this, but I still forget it. This year, I really fell down. There were a lot of reasons: the two listed above, & a few that were specific to this year. Between Thanksgiving & Christmas, I didn't have a lot of free time due to 1) norovirus; 2) a week's work in Leadville; & 3) two weeks of visitors. Also, I have been living in a state of Limbo where I wasn't sure if Shay wanted gifts from me? Was she buying me anything? Were we even going to be together at Christmas? Asking about any of these topics seemed like a sure-fire way to start a fight, so I just.... didn't.
Finally, I did buy her a gift - something she asked for, something non-material, & something fairly expensive. I got her 20 classes at Denver Paw School for Hobbes to take agility classes. She asked for this, specifically. It was somewhat expensive (actually, by my standards it was very expensive, over $400). I did the legwork to get Hobbes evaluated & approved for the class - set an appointment, took him in, did all the vaccination paperwork, etc. And I'm happy to take him to classes when it doesn't work with Shay's schedule.
But this gift doesn't fulfill her idea of a gift. And so, I should've gotten her something else - something tangible, like clothing or a video game or jewelry. Bobo Bro got her an oil infuser (for making infused oils - yeah, she will use it for weed) & she LOVED it. I should've tried harder to come up with something. When I told her on Christmas Eve I didn't have any gifts for her to unwrap, she wept. I felt like shit.
Her birthday is on Friday. My gift for that is I'm getting her laptop repaired - it's been inoperable for months & I finally just grabbed it & took it to a repair shop. But I doubt this will be an acceptable gift either (even though for me this would be an amazing gift).
So what do I do? I don't know what she might want. If I ask her, I'm going to look like a last-minute schmuck (which I am) AND risk another fight. I don't know what to do.
